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My new Blueberry Guitar

As soon as I had my hands on my Blueberry guitar I could not let it go. It’s an extraordinary instrument. Not only is it beautiful to look at, it sounds incredible and imbued with a mystical spirit that makes me a better player. It is stunning for stage – it looks like no other […]

Outing (And Why Gay Celebrities Need to Leave the Closet)

I got in “trouble” for outing someone. I don’t really feel like explaining it. It is much better if you actually just watch the video: I got in big Twitter fights about it. (If you want to see them, they can be viewed here.) Twitter fights are kind of unfair, because there’s not enough ammunition in […]

Babie Scare Me More Than Anything

from Salon.com Excerpted from “No Kidding: Women Writers on Bypassing Parenthood” edited by Henriette Mantel. Available from Seal Press, a member of the Perseus Books Group. Copyright 2013. I don’t have children, and I am not sure if I have wanted them or never wanted them. It’s weird not to be able to decide. Kids are great, and […]

Boston

I deeply respect runners. I can’t go more than say, 10 feet without totally winding myself, coughing and sputtering, red faced and sweating, staggering to my own imaginary finish line. It must be incredible to actually complete a marathon. To challenge your body to go that far, like Pheidippides, running on, to what might feel […]

The Aroma of Forgiveness

Aroma

I returned to the Aroma spa today, and I was late. You know when you are in LA and you are just trying to go to Koreatown, like 10 minutes from my house, but in LA Friday Traffic Time, which are like the DOG YEARS of drivetime, it can take you – well, a lot […]

The Bikram Choudhury Shitshow

This blog originally appeared on xojane.com

I attended Bikram’s Yoga School sometime in the late 90s. It was very far from my home at the time, just beneath the Hollywood sign, and I would sweat and bake in the car, panicking that I would be late for their 4:30 pm class — but, ultimately, I would arrive just in time, to […]

Aroma Smells Like Bigotry

Aroma Spa & Sports This is a really beautiful Korean spa in Los Angeles. Korean spas are wonderful, and they hold a special place in my heart. I have been going to the jijilbang since I was a little girl in Korea. You can have a bath and a scrub and a sauna and usually […]

Lt. Dan Choi on Trial

When Lt. Dan Choi finishes up with his trial, which will take place on Thursday, March 28, in Washington, D.C., he and I are headed to Jeju Island, South Korea’s own little island paradise. Dan needs some paradise right now. He is on trial for contesting and questioning Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, which was later […]

For XOJane.com: Why is it great to be a queer icon?

This originally appeared on xojane.com   MARGARET CHO TALKS ABOUT HER PRIDE IN BEING CALLED A “QUEER ICON” IN LIGHT OF MICHELLE SHOCKED’S ANTI-GAY RANT xoJane asked Margaret Cho to shed some positive light on the Michelle Shocked controversy by talking about what an honor and a privilege having a large queer fanbase truly is. […]

Michelle Shocked

Well, Michelle Shocked, I am actually totally shocked. What the hell?! It’s freaky to me, the whole business of going from a queer icon to someone who would actually say that God hates us. When the shock wore off, I found people were super angry but I just got scared. I think that as a […]