“I would describe myself as pansexual. It’s just always been part of my life. Maybe it was Wonderwoman, that incredibly lesbian dream fantasy person, from the Isle of Lesbos, completely strong and beautiful, self possessed. That’s where I started. I also really liked that costume, really patriotic and really slutty. It’s a fetish outfit.

My sexual identity is one of otherness. I think my Asianness also has something to do with it, too. I never saw myself represented in popular culture, so I’ve always felt I was the ‘other.’

I feel very fluid with sexuality, falling in love every day with somebody different. For me, it’s about embracing the liquidity of sexual desire.

I love everybody. I’m not really concerned with the outside as I am with the inside. I do love the fetish scene because it’s really heartfelt. People are really attached to the look — that’s their sexuality, it really means something to people. Fashion is a fetish in a way, but it’s so consumer-driven and competitive. Fetishism is so grassroots.

When I was a teenager, one of the first gay jobs I ever had was working for Stormy Leather, a lesbian fetish outfit, and they’re huge now. I grew up in San Francisco and that’s what you do instead of getting a paper route.

After my show was cancelled, I went through a period where I was incredibly fucked up on drugs. I’m sober now, and that has made my work so much more satisfying. This show is so positive, and the audience comes away from it really energized. The show before was negative, it was the best I could do. Now it’s a very enriching experience for everyone.

In my show, I talk a lot about being a fag hag, but I think that’s what I used to be. Madonna and Rupert Everett is an incredibly idealized fag hag relationship. In my heart, I am a very overweight 16-year-old in a gay bar with all these gorgeous boys and at 1 A.M. they’re all gone and I have their drugs. There were also fag hags who were boys, who would get left behind by the cute boys. A lot of what straight women and gay men have in common is a longing, wanting to be part of the dominant culture, it’s a longing, and an anger.

I think what I am is an alternative voice in the media. There is this attitude in Hollywood

that we live in this gay-friendly world, everything is cool — and it’s not. California is where we just voted ‘yes’ on Proposition 22.

For me, it’s about going out there and doing it every day. I’m learning that everything is political and I’m seeing it. There’s power in what I do. This world is not fair, and it’s not liberal and it’s not cool. My goal is to be and encourage other people to be self-loving and self-reliant, which is really an outlaw message in our culture.”