Write To Me

Please comment on my posts. I read them all, so be nice to me, as I am all kinds of sensitive, and really a bad word here will ruin my day and even week or month. Years have been wrecked by criticism and insults. I got the memory of an elephant but not the thick hide. I take it all real personal, and deep inside, so know that before you say what you are going to say. I’d like to know why you want to read my writing and what it makes you feel like and if you have anything to add. I may not answer every question or comment, but I truly will take it all into consideration.

If you feel like it, let other people know that this blog is worth reading, as I think it is, just as I enjoy writing it. I am trying to realize my writerly potential. It’s happening, or something is happening.

87 thoughts on “Write To Me

  1. I’ve read a handful in the past, but only started subscribing after the “Getting mad on Twitter” post. Now I read them all.

    Keep writing. It’s the highlight of a day to see a post.

  2. I will be brief.

    I just wanted to let you know that despite what people may say about you, you are a genuine and very kind person inside and out. You’ve helped me get through my coming out process a few years ago, as a teenager, with your comedy and wit. You were my inspiration during that traumatic phase of my life, and I will always respect and remember you for it. The world needs more people like you. Especially during times like these where young gays feel the need to end their lives because of the lack of sympathy for their situations in this country. You’re beautiful.

    Many thanks,

    Daniel

  3. You are a very talented person that has a lot to offer the world. Don’t let the negativity bring you down. Keep in mind thst all great people have haters 🙂 it’s when the hating stops you know there’s a problem. Your comedy is an inspiration and I am glad to know that I’m not the only greedy one out there 🙂

  4. I pimp this site out to anyone who will listen. You’re a VERY gifted writer – engaging, humorous, and above all, honest. It’s the *you* that flows out of the page, and that’s such a rare gift.

    Please keep writing!

  5. Hey Margaret. I have loved you since Dr. Katz. You are very funny. I am a budding comic. I want to get stage time but I am at the open mic stage. Any tips for me?

  6. I will go STRAIGHT for you, but we both know when to comes to going down, I wouldn’t know what to do, I’ll just stick my hand out and do spirit fingers and bring home the pom poms =)

  7. Your writing is beautiful and honest. You make the rest of us feel less alone in our struggles and joys. Love to you, beautiful lady! Keep fighting the good fight.

  8. I think you are uniquely beautiful, and I love your anger and non-bullshit stance. Reading your posts has set me on the path wherein I stop hating my body for not being Media Perfect and start loving everything about me that is awesome. At the ripe (old) age of 47.

    Nothin’ but love from this Hon, hon.

  9. Hi Margaret! I have been following you on FB, and in the larger general world, for a while now. I wrote in the comments to the article about your rightful freak out why I love you so much, but I’ll restate here since its exactly what you’re asking for:

    As a Korean American bisexual girl who first heard of you as a kid when you came out with your sitcom and thought, Great! A show for me, and rediscovered you through your standup in college just as I came to accept my own sexuality and personhood, you Margaret are my absolute role model. I watched your reality show when it aired, and I have watched (I think) most of your standup that has been DVD released, and I can’t get enough of you. When I started reading your blog, I felt like it gave a little more insight into someone I felt like I already knew. While I have always admired your comedic style, I also learned that you are a writer, and the eloquence and conviction you show on stage (amidst raunchiness and cursing) comes out in a more quiet and reflective way in your writing. Blogging is not something I do well, neither standing 100% behind who I want to be in my life, and you combine both in a way that makes me admire you more. I’m sure you get a million fan letters saying similar things but I wish I could be you and/or meet you. Without ever knowing me, You, of all celebrities/comedians/humans, seem to understand where I’m coming from, and where I want to go. I am a firm believer that life is worth living when you surround yourself with the people you love, and you are so loved by many. You fill a niche that needed to be filled but you also carved the shit out of it to mold around you, not the other way around. Simply put you’re awesome Margaret and I know you have your down days like the rest of us, and your pain is your pain, but really your awesomeness should and does heal. All this may not even fit in your comment box, but I really hope it does. Keep the laughs and the realness coming, you’re only building up steam =)

  10. It’s funny that at one point in time (back in the 90s) I would hear your name and say, “Who the hell is that?”
    Now I hear your name and it brings a smile to my face thinking of all of your stand up. 🙂

  11. Women and elephants never forget. -Dorothy Parker

    Girl u are an inspiration. U made me want to write myself! I am a published author of 2 books because of u. (well, one but the other one’s coming out in a few weeks).

    Wait! I’m not done! I came out in this books too! U gave me that ‘fuck u if u don’t like it,it’s all the more reason why I’m gonna do it anyway!’ attitude.

    Margaret, ur my shero dud être. U fucking rock! Keep writing! You never know who’s lives you’re changing because of it.

    Yours Truly, Madly, Deeply,

    Sonia

  12. Hey Margaret,

    You ooze of “awesomeness” sweetie; although I’m a gay man if I were to ever have sex with a female it would have to be you!

    Regards,
    Bill Strong in Minneapolis

  13. Thank you so much for bringing so much joy and laughter into my life at a time when I really needed it. I would go anywhere to see you and to know that I would be able to hear the truth about things in your life and that you would bring out that sep guttural laughter that is so lacking in the world today at the most outrageous things.

    And secondly may I say that your expressions are priceless…..never lose them..you could go on stage and say nothing….your face tells it all..

    Much Love & Light to you my dear,
    Dee

  14. You are consistently funny and that’s reason enough – but the real reason ultimately I keep reading your stuff is because of – maybe this is weird! – the “Persimmon Diet” story. I’ve struggled with ED most of my life and the other year in the midst of some terrible stress it came back with a horrible vengeance and I was very ill for a while, just not eating enough to be healthy and hating myself and my body the entire time. In the middle of that I saw some of your comedy shows and among them the various bits where you talk about how you were scolded for your face being too round and told not to wear a mini skirt in public ever again and all those other hurtful things, and finally saw the bit about the Persimmon Diet in one of the shows, and in between laughing so hard – you are very funny! – I definitely got the message. I am not pretending this “cured” me, because of course we are bombarded with messages of hate every day. But it helps put them in perspective and think about the ridiculous things we are told we have to do to ourselves to be acceptable. Also you are beautiful and you rock and have awesome tattoos.

  15. I first saw you back in some of your earliest shows on Comedy Central, and loved you then. You have, especially of late, inspired me to start creating the things I need to create, and so I’ve been writing a web serial since 2009 that addresses some of the things that make me crazy in comic books and SF&F, like the dearth of major, three-dimensional POCs, queers, and women characters. (I’m also writing another SF miniseries/web serial with you envisioned as playing the main character! I’ll email you a link when I post it, just in case you’re interested.)

    Also, my wife uses your comedy routines and blog posts in the classes she teaches at various colleges to help educate students about gender, sexuality, and race.

  16. I read your blog and find that along with being hilarious, you are a very fine writer. Rumpus in the Mail just confirmed it. So very glad we get to read your words!

  17. I find you fascinating. You are so much fun to watch and read. You are one of those people who possesses both talent and charisma. I find it curious that you, so long in the spotlight, are still worried about the opinions of nobodies like me. Throw you net wider–and relax!

  18. Aww Margaret. You are loved!!! I have te same thing – memory of an elephant without the thick hide. But woman you are brave! I have limited my life experiences because of it. I’d hate to do something, be judged negatively, and be able to say to myself, “They’re right!” and feel bad because it’s true. However, I think most any criticism you receive is false! And, even some things might be true, sometimes those things don’t matter. The key to a good life isn’t your diet or image or whatever you might get criticized for – its that you’re happy! You deserve happiness Margaret! You light up the lives of geeky girls and gays across North America. I hear that comedians are “their last show”. As charismatic as you comedians are, you’re always gonna chalk yourself up based on your last show… I literally pray for my favorite comedians to be happy. Lol. It may sound ridiculous but it’s true. I understand the suffering of the comedown, the insecurity. So I pray for you. To be able to feel the love your fans feel for you. Literally you have people obsessed with you. Who think you’re beautiful and hilarious and would love to be your BFF (I’m speaking for straight girl fans lol). If I wasn’t incredibly awkward I’d love to meet you. Lol. But, I’ll read your posts now, and if I ever meet you I’ll say, “I loved your blog post.” Anyway, something I have wanted to say. It weirds me out to read “New Blog” I’m like, “Why does MC have so many blogs????” and then I realize you mean you have a new entry in your blog. It literally took me a few months to get that. Here’s a parallel that I hope show what I mean. Article is to Newspaper as entry is to blog. So to me when I read that it’s like the equivalent of saying “New newspaper” when really its a new article. Ya feel me? I know it’s kinda douchey to comment on something like that but I can’t help that I’m one of those douchey ppl. But I love ya!

  19. Dearest Margret, I met you once in Flint Michigan. I am not from Flint, and it is one of the top 10 worst cities in the world. However, when I heard you and Ian Harvey were coming I HAD to buy tickets. Because of you I met Ian, and he helped me greatly on my journey from lesbian to Transmale. Like Ian, I am gender queer and I didnt exactly fit into the Trans box. Without you many thing would not have been possible. I love your comedy and hope you are doing well. I always wish you the best because you are a kind soul and I can tell you beat yourself up about little things. I hope you find empowerment through books, friends and other avenues because you are amazing and worth it! I love you Ms. Cho, you are beautiful. Have a kick ass day 🙂 <3 Rhett

  20. Margaret, your comedy got me through high school when I was the awkward fat gay girl who didn’t know how to be anything but a stereotype, and now that I’ve grown up a bit (I’m 23), your blog posts keep bringing the funny, with a dash of badassery and sass. It’s pretty much tops – you’re my hero.

  21. I started following your blog just a few weeks ago and have been a fan for many years. I have fallen in love with your blog because of your voice, your point of view and most importantly your TRUTH!

    Keep writing, keep writing, please!

    I am a young comic/actor (well kind of young ha) with almost four years of bombing and no jobs under my belt. You inspire me to keep being me and to not be ashamed of that. You inspire me to speak the truth and not just tell stupid jokes about traffic. Thank you!

  22. I stop whatever I’m doing at work and read whenever your posts come up on facebook. I love reading what you write, and can often relate. Keep it up and thank you!

  23. Margaret,

    I love your work. I think you are allowing many new voices to come into the world. And, I totally get “years have been wrecked by criticism.” Thank you so much for being your brave, bold, “I live there” self.

    I wrote about you (positively!) on my blog. Here’s the linkt:
    http://writingismydrink.com/2011/12/26/i-freaking-love-you-margaret-cho/

    Theo Pauline Nestor
    Author of How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed (Crown)
    Writing Is My Drink: A Field Guide to Finding Your Own Voice (Simon and Schuster 2013)

  24. ***Comedian now comedown. Damnyouautocorrect!…. I was sending that from my iphone. You are an inspiration……. you inspired me to go on my laptop. Cuz reading blogs on iphones is too frustrating… Here I go a reading and commenting. Oh and

    PS if you refer to your stuff as “New Entry” think of all the jokes that could ensue instead of the limitations of “New blog”

  25. I have loved you since I read “the Fuck It diet”. If you’re ever in the UK I am totally buying you a beer. Or a rum and coke. Or a vodka. Whatever you want. You’re fucking amazing! xx

  26. I love your shows , but most of all i love the way you accept others that are “different ” you are not afraid of speaking your opinion.Don’t let the haters get to you ,they are just sad lonely peapol that wish they where you are .

    Loves yaa

  27. You’re awesome Margaret. Don’t let the haters get you down. It’s amazing how people will hide behind a keyboard and bash out things they’d never dream of saying to someone’s face. Most are cowards, so never take the BS personally. If people don’t like your comedy, they can stay home or turn off freaking Netflix. Personally, I stay up way too late watching and laughing until I wet myself. Love you! Love you girl. Keep it coming.

  28. Love the way you are in every way.
    I live in a small town that used to be proud klan marchers.
    30 years here, one daughter and divorced 12 years. The x worked for the DA’s office for 15 yrs. Much more to the klan story here.
    I spoke freely of having kissed a transvestite at 18 thinking she was a girl, Phillipino and pretty. But someone told me she was mahoo, a guy. Was in Hawaii 72′, and the time was but moments. Never saw her again after the kiss.
    Ever since the mention, small townies have sent every effeminant, like pimps, to approach me and even flash ass. As tho to label me. Just very annoying. I’m not gay but it seems as tho the christians here can get some points for the labeling of me.
    I am gay friendly person but not stupid friendly. Can everyone be shilled?
    Very small town that protects their bad and ugly.
    The very christian even threaten…and have for years.
    Better speaker than writer…typed on phone.

  29. I met you this past summer at San Diego Pride — It was my honor and privilege to be a Cho Ho. You had a cold or allergy, but were as sweet and gracious as could be. Don’t ever concede an inch of ground to the haters. Yes, they may get you down, and I’m truly sorry that you have to deal with that. But the truth of your courage is that you won’t let them censor you: keep on putting out your righteous love, Margaret, and know that for every fratboy troll and hater there are three freaks and misfits who love you for giving voice to their world.

  30. I love and adore you because you are REAL. No b/s…just REAL. You make me laugh and I love the raunchiness! LMAO! You are also SINCERE. Not many celebrities are REAL AND SINCERE anymore (besides Ian Harvie). I enjoyed meeting you after your show in Pittsburgh. Courageous, gorgeous, hilarious, real, sincere…= FABULOUS DIVA!!!!! Keep doing what you do. We all love you!

  31. I think it goes without saying your writing is different than your comedy routine, it’s much more raw, and it’s gotten better over the years. It gives me more of an understanding of comedy and whom you are as a person. Your writing has helped me face many of my own demons and look at how I deal with them or lack of dealing with them. You touch places within me not many people can, and sometimes I really feel like I have a connection with you. I admire you for being who you are in a world that has always wanted to be someone else. You are beautiful and I love you.

  32. You’re lovely, gorgeous, hilarious and magical. I take everything to heart, too, so i totally understand. I admire you greatly for having the tenacity and strength to remain in the public eye as I don’t think it’s something i could do. I’m pretty much a hermit who’s main love in life is drawing and who’s very lucky to have a supportive family. You’re super. 🙂

  33. I read your blog and follow you on twitter because your words are always honest and genuine. You are funny and witty and incredibly sincere. I often share your words with friends. Keep on keepin’ on, Cho. I love every bit of it.

  34. You are so hilarious! I love your writing and shows for it. But far more importantly, you’re opinions are always well formed, accurate, and true to your actual self. From everything from religion, to parents, to sexuality, I’ve yet to find a stance you take that is close-minded, biased, or not grounded in truth. I believe it takes a pretty enlightened person to do achieve that level of wisdom.

  35. Dear Ms.Cho,
    I would like to thank you for the stuff you sent me at CHLA. It was Christmas Eve and I had been crying because I wouldn’t be with all of my family but when I got the stuff I just couldn’t stop smiling. So thank you. So much.

  36. Margret,

    Watched you from the 80’s, was chasing guys then. But secretly loved women. I come see you faithfully when you come to Vegas. I sit in th audience thinking hmmmn maybe one day she will come out in the audience and say you (pointing to me) come with me. Leave the rest to your imagination, cause gurl u got one hell of one. Don’t ever be down on yourself, you are unique as am I as is everyone. Shoot I miss your show on VH-1, you and ur family were fun to watch. I loved it. You should make a you-tube show like that. There’s this young gurl Chlowe Jean on youtube does The Lesbian Corner, she is fing hilarious. The one in the t-shirt I did not hear word I have watched it millons of times. Can’t get past her boobs. Lol, have a wonderful day. Love Ya uh……Pick Me …. Cathy

  37. Margaret Cho, I honestly think you are sexy, not just your manner and wit but also physically, especially with your beautiful tattoos. You rock that body. You have inspired me since I checked out your first stand up video when I was around 13 yrs old, and I was absolutely jubilant when you came to Alaska, my home state, and I got to see you perform in Anchorage. I’ve introduced your stand up to most of my friends, because no other comedian has made me laugh as hard as you have. I love your no-bullshit stance on racial, sexuality, and gender issues. I used to have a sign on my dorm room that said If you’re not a feminist, you should kill yourself- Margaret Cho – it was quite the hall controversy for a while ;), love love love

  38. I always loved your comedy, it’s sweet and brave and has that positivity like the Beatles. I watch Bam Bam and Celeste when I really need that kind of help, and I always cry at the end, but the good kind that I’m alive again. It’s a great gift you give to lots of people like me, and you are loved, like the ‘love is all you need’ kind, profoundly loved.

  39. Hello Margret,
    I watched your comedy shows and your reality show – loved!! When I see/read things from you I feel a sense of inspiration and empowerment. It feels like my world is a little bit brighter because of it and I thank you for that! Keep doing what you do, lady 🙂
    Shalonie

  40. Dearest Margeret, thank you so much sharing; comedy,music, and blog. I wish i could write as you. you say what you feel and feel what you say ( and i feel right along with you). i have “too many’s” and “not enough’s.” i tend to lose compassion somewhere along the way for these folks who have determination to violate you. you stand up though…. i am 56 years old and i hope that when i grow up i have just alittle of your strengh. peace, P

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