Write To Me

Please comment on my posts. I read them all, so be nice to me, as I am all kinds of sensitive, and really a bad word here will ruin my day and even week or month. Years have been wrecked by criticism and insults. I got the memory of an elephant but not the thick hide. I take it all real personal, and deep inside, so know that before you say what you are going to say. I’d like to know why you want to read my writing and what it makes you feel like and if you have anything to add. I may not answer every question or comment, but I truly will take it all into consideration.

If you feel like it, let other people know that this blog is worth reading, as I think it is, just as I enjoy writing it. I am trying to realize my writerly potential. It’s happening, or something is happening.

87 thoughts on “Write To Me

  1. I just started reading your blog this week (I was hooked by the post about sewing, as I am a seamstress by trade and an avid sewer/knitter).

    I want you to know how much I enjoy your sense of humor and your honesty. I love your comedy, but I think I love your writing/blogging even more. Thank you for having the courage to put yourself out there.

    Also, your tattoos are gorgeous!

  2. I don’t read all your posts, because I generally don’t spend enough time online to keep completely up to date. I drift in and out, but when I do read your blog, you always have something to say.

    I’ve read your bio on this site, watched some of your comedy, and just feel you’re an interesting person with interesting life experience.

    Your writing is really refreshing, especially when there’s so much crap everywhere online, in magazines etc, it’s nice to find things actually worth reading, with viewpoints which don’t just reiterate everything written everywhere else. It’s nice to come across actual honesty, rather than just bland, inane rubbish, and find something I actually ‘get’.

  3. Hi Gorgeous! I got to see your fabulous tatooed ass and a fantastic revue @ Victor Variety Hour a Satuday ago! Was thrilled to see your genius interpretation of M. Butterfly. Funny thing a friend on facebook shared your tirade about being criticised on twitter when sharing the fab new tatoos. I didn’t even know you had a blog. Awesome. I am a “big” girl, stylish, funny, cool, well liked, but far more sensitive then most people would ever suspect so I can appreciate your tirade in a few ways. I just would keep it under wraps as trained by my bajan father and southern mother. But keeping things under wraps, “in control” hasn’t done much for me over the years.

    Thanks for inspiring me to get to one of the smartst shows I’ve seen in some time. Burlesque is an absolute love of mine, particularly modern day women of color in it. IT is my new creative inspiration, from comical overture to costume to the art of the tease. I make hats, and custom clothing, but I will look forward to actually costuming and performing in my fat ass and all its glory someday sooner than later.

  4. I read you every day! I don’t usually comment, cause I’m busy and stuff, but I always read and it’s always interesting. I’ve been a fan since your HBO special in 199-whatever, the one with the leather outfit. Just because we don’t comment doesn’t mean we don’t love what you’re doing here.

  5. Thanks so much for all your responses. That is amazing and inspiring and it makes me feel really loved. I have so much gratitude for you and for all of this. Thank you thank you thank you. I will keep writing. It’s a true pleasure and an honor for me. – Margaret

  6. Started reading at first as I’m a long time fan. However I continued to read as my young daughters were adopted from China. While you have a unique voice as an Asian American woman and your experiences will of course differ from those of my girls you nonetheless have a perspective which I as a white male will never possess. And I find your insights on society and how you fit, or at times may not fit, valuable to grant me just a bit of that same perspective. Hopefully what I gain will help in some small part to understand the challenges my girls will face as they grow. So don’t ever stop or let the jerks of the world keep you down for long if at all.

  7. Dear Ms Cho,
    I enjoy reading your blog. I don’t get to it daily or even weekly but when I check out your website I read as much as the little baby gives me time for!

    The way you write is as if you’re speaking to your reader – that’s how I do it too! I love when people comment on my blogs but I’ve only ever had one or two comments on any of my posts. I treat my blog like a journal entry and I assume that no one comments because I don’t have much of interest to say (I had this baby and my butthole almost blew through the wall, scaring pregnant women, post partum depression, yadda yadda yadda). Once in awhile (okay it happened three times max) a friend has contacted me to tell me that they enjoyed reading my blog, and that I should write more. All it takes for me is just the slightest amount of encouragement. I can only imagine how hard it would be to take negative comments. Fuckers. Haters. People who leave unprovoked negative comments on blogs are probably against gay marriage (Booo, hisss). That’s besides the point though.. The point being: your blog is obviously hilarious, filled with interesting anecdotes and perspectives and insights. You seem like a lovely lady and I hope you will continue to blog about your unique experiences. You are an inspiration, I love how you consistently keep it real. You are appreciated in Nova Scotia, Canada!

    Nolite te bastardes carborundorum!

  8. I read you because I you are fabulous. I don’t usually comment because what can one say to a god, really? You once walked past me at UC Berkeley about 10 years ago, and my. head. exploded.

  9. Margaret, I have been a mega fan since watching a well loved copy of ‘I’m the one I want’ at my friend’s gay uncle’s house while they were at pride. She was supposed to house sit, but we just watched you paired with their not to well hidden gay porn collection, drank like fools, and had sha-nan-nan parties. I was only 15 and had recently came out (and lived in a rural TN town), and many things you say still resonate with me today. Because of you, I have learned to be more brave, bold, and comical at life’s many adversities. My senior quote in the year book read, silence=nonexistence. I have truly enjoyed following your career. You always seem to pop up in my favorite things, Sordid Lives and 30 Rock, and you have relentlessly stood by your convictions and melded comedy with self love. Keep doing what you are doing. Your writing voice is beautiful and captivating. I am very happy you have decided to start blogging. May many more successes follow you, Justin.

  10. I read you because I love your point of view and think you have a big heart. I identify with you. I was upset about your twitter and Facebook anger recently and wrote to you… You really put yourself ‘out there’ and I admire that.

  11. I have always found you to be truthful,insightful, and right on target withwhen you express yourself. As with any great artist….you say what the rest of us think and cant say.What we all feel just trying to cope with life and the human condition.What makes me come back for more is that you do it with humor,candor and no fear’ I never feel like your just another celebrity trying to kiss the ass of the audience to keep your career. Art is life and you live your life right in front of us..naked and vulnerable. A joy to witness and you dont need to thank any of us….Thank You for sharing your talent….never retreat,never surrender….

  12. I always get something worth while out of your blog! It is an inspiration to me. You are a skilled writer, and you allow your readers into your life as it really is. Sometimes I think you are too trusting. I hate to see people trying to hurt you. I try to be as open as you in my own blog, and hopefully, as interesting. Thanks in part to you I have become a much better writer. I have a genuine interest in you and your life, and for me that is a gift. Thanks so much for giving of yourself! It really does feel like we are friends. I hope you find the time to check out my blog. If there is anything in there about you that you object to, let me know! and I will gladly edit it out. It is never my intention to offend anyone, and certainly not people I admire!!

  13. When my partner of six years ended things not too long ago, I turned to your stand up to keep me laughing and to keep life in perspective. I have always loved your courage and your convictions and your fucking amazing brain. I am particularly in awe of what you wrote recently:

    “I fly my flag of self esteem for all those who have been told they were ugly and fat and hurt and shamed and violated and abused for the way they look and told time and time again that they were ‘different’ and therefore unlovable. Come to me and I will tell you and show you how beautiful and loved you are and you will see it and feel it and know it and then look in the mirror and truly believe it. If you are offended by my anger and my might at defending my borders and my people you do not deserve entry into my beloved and magnificent country.”

    As a queer woman, I can’t tell you how much you mean to me. You create space in the world for me to be me. Your words do make me feel loved and beautiful, and I hope my little comments might do even just a wee bit of same for you. I have kick ass tickets to see you in Vancouver (my first time seeing you live–I’ll be a Cho Ho Virgin! Whoot!), and I can’t wait to see you rip shit up on Feb 19th!

    Thanks for being brave and authentic and for being a totally fucking righteous babe with a gorgeous ass.

    So much love to you!

  14. Hi Margaret,

    A friend on FB introduced me to your blog a few weeks ago.

    I bookmarked you in favourites straight away.

    You are a great writer and I always enjoy the privilege of being in your world.

  15. I have been enjoying this site for a little while…not sure how I even came upon it?! But for the last month I have been checking in to see what you are up to and always enjoy reading. Just posted a link to the blog on my FB page and Twitter feed to share the wealth. Keep it up lady!

  16. Hi, Margaret

    I’m Korean and gay.
    You know it’s really hard to be a gay living in Korean community.
    Most koreans are christians( as you know) and they really bash gay people, especially, when they found out you’re gay and korean, they really hate you and really really want to destroy you, your life and things around you. I don’t think my life is in a great situation now.
    But your show and your humors always make me laugh and give me strength to live day by day as a gay man.
    I’m very proud of you as a Korean and a great performing artist.
    I just want to say,” THANKS”

  17. Margaret. I found you when I needed you the most, seven years ago when I was in the middle of figuring out what it really is to be Asian Swedish and female and a little bit all over the place. Since then your books, blogs, videos and shows have helped me keep my sanity and my sh*t together in this crazy cold part of the world. When frustration levels become unbearable, I read the “I Got this Part” text in IHCTSAF and laugh out loud.

    For you I would go anywhere with a chicken under my arm.

    I love you and I wish you would visit Sweden sometimes, it is a place very much in need of your shows.


  18. Dear Margaret,

    All-American Girl made me a fan. Your powerful truth made me a admirer. Everyone I’ve shown your work to respects your effort: never stop rattling the walls.

    You are a light.

  19. Hi, Margaret! I’m a longtime fan and have read your blog faithfully for years. It’s bookmarked on my computer and it’s the first thing I check in the morning every day, literally, before I start my day.
    I have shared many of your posts with friends of mine over time, and many things you have written have stuck with me. I am a writer as well, although unfortunately I don’t write very often because life gets in the way. I can relate to how you feel in so very many ways, so keep it up and don’t get discouraged. Try not to let the haters out there get to you so much; I know that’s very difficult to do. But I’ve got your back. 😉 You are spreading good in the world.

  20. “Come to me and I will tell you and show you how beautiful and loved you are and you will see it and feel it and know it and then look in the mirror and truly believe it.”

    This is now part of my “religion” on facebook. I’m reading your blog because you seem like a Good Person and you inspire me even when you’re not particularly trying to be inspiring.

  21. When I wasn’t even a teenager yet, I saw you on the Rodie O’Donnell show and All American Girl, but it was really through this blog that I became a hardcore fan.
    I found your blog on a link list of other GLBT friendly blogs and since I was struggling with my bisexuality at the time, and I already knew I liked your jokes, I decided to check it out.

    I loved your style of wriitng from the first blogpost I read and the way you were so honest about everything, espically the stories about your childhood.

    You helped me become more politically aware. Heck, there where day you helped me stay on the planet! To a fourteen year-old disabled bi girl, you were amazing. If Margaret said life got better than it must, I figured after everything you’d been through, you wold know.

    I’m twenty-five now and I can’t believe I’ve never written you. I always figured that was for other people who weren’t so shy. But I just had to write you this time, because I wanted you to know you were right about life, it does get better.

  22. I totally love your blog. I only comment on the ones I love and I love yours! I loved you on TV and told my Mom when I was in my teen years that I was going to be a TV star like Margaret Cho! She said that round faced Korean girls were not wanted on TV so instead I became a star to my friends and family. I like to think that I still am. I think you are a shining star.

  23. Hi Margaret, just started reading here as I found it from your twitter, and enjoy your blog as much as I enjoy your comedy and your great attitude!
    I watched the video “MissRepresentation” on YouTube, it’s great and so important for our young people. Good for you!
    Thank you,


  24. I don’t comment much because your words are flawless, and leave me rather intimidated. I’m also rather shy, even separated by screens and miles, and unused to the idea of anyone at all being able to find value in what I have to say, especially someone I admire.

    Your boldness, your spirit, your strength, and your words inspire me. I read and reread them faithfully They comfort me like a warm, lovingly stitched quilt when I’m down, and make me feel strong and empowered when I feel weak and worthless. I try to drink them with my mind, let them fill my being, strengthen my spirit like the calcium in milk does for the bones. You are what I hope to become, transform into. Not like a caterpillar into a butterfly, because that doesn’t give full weight to all that you’ve been through and done to become who you are now. No, I feel more more like the koi on your page here, looking up to the fierce and powerful dragon that one who went before me became. (I hope my use of the dragon legend isn’t offensive, but it’s the best way I can think of to explain it, and it feels chicken to edit it out.)

    Women like you have show me and others like me it’s okay to be smart, aware, and goofily pervy all at once. Thank you <3

  25. just read your blog regarding plucking your eyebrows and was interested in what you mentioned about friendships. One thing that particularly got me thinking was your comment about how harder it is to make friendships in older age. I am 58 years old now and can remember all the friends I had in my 20’s and 30’s; we had similar interests and loved to be “out”, “heard” and especially “seen”. We were accustomed with hitting the bars on “Halsted” in “Boystown” in Chicago; absolutely a great time in life. I now live in Atlanta (relocated April 2011); miss Chi-town but not the cold and snow. The friends I’ve made here in the “Deep South” seem more grounded in what’s really important especially “spiritual connectivity”. I’ve learned to place a value on those friends who are going to be there for the long haul; granted there are still a few treasured friends in Chicago, but my new Atlanta friends are more focused on totally “being there for me”. I’m thrilled that you’ll be heading back to Atlanta area; will you be going back to Peachtree City? Let me know so we can go get some sweet potato fries, yum!!! 770–938-6891 Benjy

  26. Hey, Margaret Cho! I think your comedy is hilarious and you are so very intelligent and stylin’ and brave and admirable. And you and Louis C.K. are the ONLY comedians who can make my husband laugh. I couldn’t even get him to watch comedians, until you. Maybe because he is Korean and your background is Korean (or maybe because of your cutie face! Stay away from my husband, Margaret Cho!). And you were the gateway drug to Louis. We always wonder, why isn’t Margaret Cho in the movies? We’ll watch your show and we would like to see you in the movies!

  27. I was wondering if you would mind talking to my mother and sister? You know they seem to be uptight. Now I don’t expect them to start riding a Harley, but it would be nice if Mom didn’t get on me about silly things like trying to teach me life lessons at 50. I am glad she never picked out the men in my life, but a hey he is a cutie wouldn’t be bad. Desperate in the Lou. xo

  28. Dear Margaret Cho,
    A personal soulful superbly enchanting multidimensional blog awaits readers here, as a rule. Thank you for each and every vivid word. We want more!

  29. i wish you could be out more and heard now about your girlfriend ian and her,his lover sarah. we could use your honesty and queer family right now to take down newt and his assault on our family values.

  30. Dear Margaret, How many ways are there to tell you that I love you? I recently took the Amtak to Victorville, and your writing kept me in stitches, the blog. I was already on an emotional journey. It had been a while since I’d been able to read it and I was laughing/crying with joy and looking crazy on the train. I’ve been a fan for as long as you’entered a public consciousness. I’m gonna wordbarf for a bit…. I got to hug you and Selena after the The Sensual Woman at the Gay and Lesbian Center after the show, as much as I can do to see you when in Lost Angels, I will do. PLEEEse write your heart out! We ” other people” may not always respond to for many different reasons than you imagine. I love your work, please continue.

  31. Your writing is phenomenal, and growing better with each paragraph. You’re inspiring and daring and honest and brave. Please don’t ever stop.

  32. Margaret, the post you wrote about the Twitter hate was posted on my Facebook wall. I lived in Korea for more than a year, and was shamed constantly. (I’m a Westerner.) What you wrote was so honest, vulnerable, and rightfully angry, that I almost cried while I read it.

    I related to it so much.

    I have to admit now – I’ve never watched your performances. Not because of any personal bias – I just don’t watch comics regularly.

    Because of you, now I will.

    Margaret, when you wrote, “Come to me and I will tell you and show you how beautiful and loved you are and you will see it and feel it and know it and then look in the mirror and truly believe it.” — I felt like you were reaching out to women like me.

    I felt like you were actually talking to me. Not in an “I’m crazy and think Margaret Cho is talking to ME,” but … well, you know what I mean.

    That blog post will stay with me forever. I really, really needed to read it at that time in my life (having just left Korea, where I was insulted ALL THE TIME. Being called ugly and fat … well, it was no picnic. But you know that.

    Thank you again. Thank you thank you thank you thank you for saying what I wished I had said.

    I’m saying it now. I’m not taking the high road with assholes who don’t deserve it anymore. No longer.

    “The best revenge is not living well. The best revenge is revenge.”

    Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I know I’m just a stranger, a random fan … but please know, that you changed my life. And I’m not being superficial about it. You really changed my life in one blog post. Thank you again. 🙂

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  34. I am really upset and offended about your comments on Watch What Happens. Retard? Really, Ms Cho? That was not funny in the least, and I’m certain you may have figured it out with the gasps in the audience. I have chosen not to have children, and as I’m at an older childbearing age, I made sure there was no possibility for accidental pregnancy with a tubal ligation. That was a personal decision, and since people think that they don’t want to be stuck with a “retard,” I would happily adopt a special needs child if I felt the need for mommyhood. There are far too may idiots with hearts of stone that do not realize that children ARE children, and they are not disposable, nor do they deserve a lesser quality of life below “well” children. In this day and age, I would hope that if you’re trying to by edgy, you are just cutting deep into the pain of families who society has stigmatized for their children.

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